Pull the Pin!


When do you make the Command decision to retreat?

Is it before or after you pull the pin on the last grenade – a final act to say SCREW YOU!? Or rather is it more effective in the broader scope of operations to save some ammo as you regroup and plan a new strategy for winning the battle next time?

Jess over at Diary of a Mom recently pulled back. It was a true learning experience for me to watch someone I admire have that kind of courage and strength to say ENOUGH. For now.

It was good timing as I have recently been having similar conversations with myself over the WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN and HOW of trying to advocate while also being the wife and mother I need to be. And oh yeah – I’m supposed to juggle social relationships, too?

Too much.

So in my own personal style, I WILL PULL THE PIN and toss out that last grenade before I go.


I will take some cover and enjoy my children, my amazing husband and just BE.

For now. 

Lookout, TRICARE – I’m still aiming for better care for our kids!





About Rachel Kenyon

Rachel Kenyon is an Aspie, Advocate and single mom of two beautiful babes - The Boy (11) and RM (8). The Boy is a Legomaniac and RM is a kick-ass diva with Autism and 4q Deletion Syndrome. View all posts by Rachel Kenyon

7 responses to “Pull the Pin!

  • Niksmom

    Duck and cover mama! We’ve got your back.

  • PJ Ruddy

    Excellent, I can relate, but from a Stay @ home Dad’s mindset. I always try to hold my cards close & bluff until I have to show all my cards.

    • Rachel

      PJ – If I had any skill at bluffing instead of relentlessly demanding – I’d be with you on that. But I really am the type to throw the last grenade anyways instead of wisely retreating with time to make a new plan. Something I am working on and need to get better at. This road is long, and unfortunately the progress really needs to be slow and steady to also be valid.

      Thanks for your support!

  • PJ Ruddy

    You are much like my wife in that respect. In the PPT that got Magnus into RSS @ Coltsville she was accused several times of being “adversarial.” I on the other hand have the advantage of being on the other side of the table. My career was in managing Community Living Arrangements “Group Homes” for Adults and kids transitioning into the CLA’s. I know how hard it can be as well as bad as it can get for the individuals and the families. This June 12th will be my one year anniversary of when I was forced out of my job for “caring too much” as well as be honest with the families of how their loved ones would live. I have worked for agencies that care and strive to ensure the individuals personal outcomes and given choices about who they live with and what they do with their lives. I tried to change the fact that the bottom line was the agencies “bottom line.” The road is long, but I know you will master that road. We all blow up. if we didn’t we would be doing something wrong, it shows that we will do whatever it takes to do right for our children. Keep fighting the good fight and if there is anything you need please feel free to ask me. Take care.

    • Cristin Millen

      Well, I think we all know I am a fan of the path of least resistance. I don’t blow up. Never get adversarial if you can avoid it. I mean why fight for something you believe in and get all stressed out? I just take one day at a time, smile through it all….ha ha. PJ I thought you might like this…cool as a cucumber…

    • Rachel

      Pj, I cannot imagine being let go from a career – essentially because you were TOO GOOD AT IT. Mind boggling. I guess that epitomizes my angst – I want to be good at advocating, but it’s new and the legislative efforts to fix TRICARE are proving to be a lot of dancing and shadowboxing. I don’t DO THAT. hee hee So, for me it’s not a metaphor for blowing up like a grendade, so much as tossing whatever I have left at trying to fix it knowing the objective requires more calculated and patient strategy that I am not necessarily suited for. I am good ‘in the room’ or ‘at the table’ whichever phrase one chooses, because I understand the mission and I speak intelligently from the heart – I imagine it’s similar to how you handled your responsibilities as well. But I have engaged in a long battle without first assessing my ammunition stock, and now I am feeling pressure from many sides (and Catholic guilt to boot) to keep going full speed, even though I really need to step away for a time.
      Again, thank you for sharing and it is a sin that you are no longer working in that capacity – but a blessing that you can do what you do for your family now :0)

  • Kim

    You need your time too, I get that. take it with no apologies! xoxo

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